My mom  passed away a few years ago, and I have never been the same since.

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Those of us who have lost our mothers, live differently in the world.  It is a feeling of inexplicable abandonment, as if we were left to navigate through this world without our most primal connection, our mothers.  We who are motherless keep it moving because we have no other choice.  We belong to a society all our own.

When you lose a mother, there is an accelerated level of maturity that is thrust upon you, ready or not.

When I lost my mother nearly 20 years ago, I would look upon those who still had theirs with envy.  Watching a movie, listening to a song, the smell of her favorite perfume worn by someone else in passing, anything that reminded me of my mother sent a pain through me that sliced right through my soul.  Birthdays, my wedding, the birth of my child, happy occasions left me with a void

Now years later, the intensity of the pain has subsided, somewhat, but every Mother’s Day I am reminded of the fact that I have no Mother.  My warm and fuzzy security blanket, my confidant, the one sure person I knew who loved me so unconditionally, so perfectly, despite my faults, was no longer in my life.

Every Mother’s Day I still choose to honor my mom because my love for her is endless.  I know my mom would want me to not spend the day depressed or crying until I no longer can, instead she would want me to spend the time doing something productive with people who make me feel loved.  To those of you who have lost your mothers, here are some ideas that might help ease your pain on this Mother’s Day

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